I’ve posted
the ‘Requirements’ a few years ago and here is how I got to that point. In no particular order of how you want do get
back your sanity, write a list of everything you want in your next
relationship, or as I’ve called it “Requirements”. These “Requirements” should
be a list of what you are looking for in a relationship, from your potential
significant other including situations you do not want to happen in your next
relationship. For example my ex-MIL
forgot about the doorbell and calling first before stopping by and my ex
never-ever confronted her about it. Yeah
that won’t happen again.
As you meet
people out with friends, dating, you’ll find this as a guide, not necessarily
as a list to live by, more as a guide to keep you in line from making those
same mistakes again. My first
requirement was ‘Can you boil water?’ in others words, ‘can you cook?’ It’s one of those ice breaker questions you
can bring up just meeting someone and they won’t know exactly where you’re
going with it (even if it is a bit sarcastic).
You may add other ‘requirements’ as you go along and set up your own
rating system. Not every person you meet
has to meet all the requirements, although having a form to easily carry in
your purse to hand out to prospects had crossed my mind at one point. I’ve encouraged my single friends, including
those still in the dating pool to make their own list. There’s always something that happens in
relationships we were in that we promise ourselves we won’t deal with again,
well..write it down!
I no longer abide by my list of
“Requirements”, yet it is a great frame for the future and makes a great
conversation Q&A to jerks you meet along the way in your newly single
life. Share it with your friends, ask
your friends to add to it. It’s
therapeutic as well when you get together with friends and laugh about it and
never gets old. I wonder why I didn’t
have this in the first place?
Samples of
the ‘Requirements”
- Must know how to cook – at least boil water and make mac and cheese
- Must knowhow to do laundry – there is a big difference between whites and darks
- Must have manners – meaning..open A door for me, whether it be the car door or any door. Opening 1 door that night is a big brownie point winner.
- If he has a pet, make sure he spends quality time with the pet, otherwise I may find myself locked in the basement when he wants to be alone
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