As a follow up to my 2011 post “The Reasons behind RSVP” I have met this feat with great disrespect for the term. I recently planned my sister’s baby shower, and those of you who have done this have probably gone through the same frustrations as I, especially because we need a headcount for the caterer, the games, the favors, etc. You are dishing out money for this event so you need to stay on top of everything, you want to make this event special. Hence why we put RSVP by such-n-such date. The invites were mailed out about a month in advance, giving everyone ample time to RSVP by email or by phone (by giving people choices I thought would make things easier). The due date for RSVP came with 10 people we had to follow up on, not entirely bad, but how hard is it for adults to respond yes or no. I’m sure they’ve been through this before. Anyway, having to hound people for a response is my forte’, it’s like collecting money, you pay up or you don’t get anything, not that this is the case we just needed an answer. As one who may have delayed RSVPing to the very last day to some events I’ve been invited to, I can attest that these invites can get lost, misplaced, or just plain forgotten about. Now what does that say to the person the event is being held for? I don’t think anyone thinks about that – its very disrespectful. We’re not mind readers either, we’re not going to assume because you live in another state doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t make the trip.
So had this not been for my sister, had this been a friend of mine (with a sense of humor), or even an event of my own, I would not think twice about checking off an ‘rsvp’ list to those who walk through the door, “Oh I’m sorry you didn’t RSVP, we don’t have a seat for you.” Now that would teach them. I do feel sorry for those of us who have to ‘hound’ adults and hold their hand to this simple task. Either way, my sister is going to have a very special baby shower and I will bite my tongue just this once to those who show but didn’t RSVP.